The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules The Handbook of Not-so-obvious Social Guidelines for Tweens and Teens with Asperger Syndrome by Jennifer Cook O'Toole


The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules The Handbook of Not-so-obvious Social Guidelines for Tweens and Teens with Asperger Syndrome by Jennifer Cook O'Toole

Being a teen or tween isn't easy for anyone but it can be especially tough for Asperkids. Jennifer O'Toole knows; she was one! This book is a top secret guide to all of the hidden social rules in life that often seem strange and confusing to young people with Asperger syndrome. The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules offers witty and wise insights into baffling social codes such as making and keeping friends, blending in versus standing out from the crowd, and common conversation pitfalls. Chock full of illustrations, logical explanations, and comic strip practice sessions, this is the handbook that every adult Aspie wishes they'd had growing up. Ideal for all 10-17 year olds with Asperger syndrome, this book provides inside information on over thirty social rules in bite-sized chunks that older children will enjoy, understand, and most importantly use daily to navigate the mysterious world around them.


This is no doubt a very helpful guide, covering a wide range of issues from Facebook, privacy, power games people play and how to deal with them, and above all it may help to develop a better understanding of how to avoid social traps and become a strong self-confident adult. The book will be of great interest to female and male adolescents and adults with Asperger syndrome. It offers some practice items and examples using comics. -- Debate The insights it gives are very comprehensive, everything from how and when to thank people to how to cope with criticism. -- Autism Support Crawley, Heather Eves A book always has faults. Right? Not in this case! I just can't find a bad thing to say about it. Written as a self-help guide for 'Asperkids

's chock-full of insightful, practical advice on how to successfully sail the seas of planet NT and succeed... The book is warm, witty and wise and at GBP13.99 it's a bargain. It's written to be read by 'Tweens and Teens'

! -- Positive About Autism Blog O'Toole is uniquely qualified to write this book - she's the proud mother of three Asperkids, she's married to an Asperguy, and is herself an aspie. This crucial guide to social interactions begins with a list of 125 Need-to-Knows, which run the gamut from platitudes ( The bigg3est mistake you can make is being too afraid to make one. ) to simple reminders ( Graciously accept compliments with a simple smile and 'thank you

. It's a real thing - but the wound you have to heal is underneath the anger. )... While aimed to help those with Asperger's navigate the world, O'Toole's approachable guide is also an invaluable resource for friends and family members of Aspies. -- Publishers Weekly Her American sense of fun comes out strongly in her writing, and the black and white comic-style illustrations add to the humorous approach... There is emphasis on not giving up, on starting over when things go wrong and on learning what a special and unique person you are. This will be a really useful tool for both Aspies and their families, and it fills a gap that needed to be filled. -- Healthy Books I completely agree with Jennifer, and think the way she says it is just great; these skills and explanations are absolutely necessary to young people's success. -- Temple Grandin, author of Thinking in Pictures Asperteens rejoice! Finally someone has produced a guide to the mysteries of teenage social etiquette. Jennifer's brilliant writing style serves up huge, life-changing advice in small, bite-sized chunks, making this an invaluable reference point for navigating the difficult path between childhood and adult life. If you're a teenager, buy a copy. If you're older, buy one too - it's never too late to learn those 'secret rules

. -- Helen Wallace-Iles, Founder and Director, Autism All-Stars UK, and mother of four children on the Autism spectrum The joy of knowing that the mistakes of the past have a good chance of melting away is the real, not-so-secret ingredient that makes this book shine. -- Michael John Carley, Executive Director, GRASP, ASTEP, and author of Asperger's From the Inside-Out Wow! This book is awesome. Jennifer O'Toole's The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules is a triumph of words, wisdom and wit. It is a fun yet oh so important set of keys that will help Asperkids of all ages unlock virtually every mystery the NT world holds. I love it! -- Liane Holliday Willey, author of Pretending to be Normal and Safety Skills for Asperger Women Jennifer O'Toole has done it again. Reading this book was like dipping into a bag of wonderful treasures. A very comprehensive guide to social rules for Aspies and a brilliant reminder of just how much NTs take for granted and how hard our Asperkids have to work each day. This book serves as a 'universal translator

'smell the flowers and blow out the candles'


, author of the blog, and very proud Mum to one Asperboy superhero and his equally amazing NT supersister Jennifer Cook O'Toole has done it again with The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules. Jennifer is the queen of understanding and helping others to understand the ins and out of Asperger syndrome. In this book Jennifer hits on all of the important issues tweens and teens face and provides ways for your Asperkids to thrive during this challenging time. Learn rules like to be interesting to other people, you first have to be interested in them , one mistake does not break a friendship , being right isn't always the most important thing even when it feels that way , and so much more. As the mother of an eight year old with non-verbal learning disorder, ADD, and SPD, this book is the first I grab to help both me and my amazing little gal. An incredible book by an incredible woman. -- Lisa Davis, MPH, creator, host, and producer of It's Your Health Radio and It's Your Health TV Not only is The Asperkid's Secret Book of Social Rules a book for Asperkid teens and tweens, it is also a book for their parents, caregivers and for anyone who grew up Aspie and wants to understand themselves and the world around them better. Being undiagnosed until in my 40s, this is the book I wish I had when I was a teenager. Thank you Jennifer, for not only making these social rules no longer 'secret

! -- Karen Krejcha, Executive Director of Autism Empowerment (, Aspie, GRASP 2012 DSM Award winner, and loving mom of two sons with autism and Asperger syndrome The Asperkid's (Secret) Book of Social Rules is a must-have resource for tweens and teens with Asperger syndrome. By exposing the 'secret

'need to knows', O'Toole sensitively and candidly explains the social rules that often confuse teens with Asperger's syndrome. The graphics, humor, and short chapters make the book lively and accessible, while O'Toole's own experiences as an individual with Asperger syndrome helps teens connect personally with her insightful, practical advice. -- Diane M. Kennedy and Rebecca S. Banks, authors of Bright Not Broken: Gifted Kids, ADHD, and Autism 'There are so many reasons to love this book. It is kid-friendly, fun, packed with practical tips, and full of respect for those needing these tips the most. The thing I love best about it, however, is how appropriate the content is for every student, both those on the spectrum and those who are not. In fact, we can all learn something from Jennifer O'Toole's wonderful advice on relationships, organization, learning, communication and self-respect. -- Paula Kluth, PhD, author of You're Going to Love this Kid: Teaching Students with Autism in the Inclusive Classroom reading [O'Toole's] book is making me understand more how his brain is wired and I am learning SO much. -- Elizabeth Conner, mother of a child with Asperger syndrome'

About the Author

Jennifer Cook O'Toole has Asperger syndrome and is the mother to three young Aspie children. She graduated from Brown University, and attended Columbia University's Graduate School of Social Work. She has previously worked as a social worker, and a teacher in both special needs and mainstream education. She has also served on the Family Advisory Board for Levine Children's Hospital, North Carolina, and regularly gives presentations at hospitals and local universities on special needs parenting. In 2002 she was nominated for Disney's Teacher of the Year Award. More recently, she has been honored with the GRASP (Global and Regional Asperger Syndrome Partnership) 2012 Distinguished Spectrumite Medal, as well as the 2012 Temple Grandin Award for outstanding accomplishment and contribution to [her] family and community . She lives near Charlotte, North Carolina.

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280 pages


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Publication date

15th October 2012



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